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"Uncovering and Facing Spiritual Abuse" 
14th-Dec-2006 01:25 pm
There's an excellent article on spiritual abuse by Gary Engler, formerly of the ICoC, at http://www.barnabasministry.com/recovery-uncovering.html. Here's a sampling of some of the issues he tackles:

* Not Everybody May See the Abuse, But That Doesn’t Mean It Isn’t Real
* Diverting Attention
* Minimizing
* Blame the Victim
* Does God Sometimes Use Abuse for Good?
16th-Dec-2006 06:56 pm (UTC) - alternative URL for the article
The Barnabas Ministry web site seems to be experiencing some downtime, so an alternative URL for the article is

16th-Dec-2006 07:05 pm (UTC) - The "sacred cows"
This is from the "Diverting Attention" section of the article. Gary Engler describes his evolution from hard core defender of the ICoC movement to one who realized that there were "sacred cows" that the core ICoC leadership would never give up:

After all of these experiences I described above, I spent many years defending this movement. It's quite natural to defend something of which you are a part and with which you identify. However, the more I tried to defend it, the more I realized how much it needed to change. I then spent many more years trying to change it. For me, some minor changes had been made and I honestly thought that if other things were just brought up "the right way" the necessary changes would take place. I then tried to communicate these things in "just the right way." In fact, this website was originally started for the purpose of helping those who had been deeply hurt and trying to address areas of needed change in "just the right way." In time, I saw for myself that there were some sacred cows that were never, ever going to be given up.
16th-Dec-2006 09:53 pm (UTC) - Re: The "sacred cows"
Seems to be similar to our experience with UBF. There are so many sacred cows that even the CMI will not give up, much less the UBF.
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