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20th-Jun-2007 10:50 pm
Thanks Amy for posting the email correspondence between you and Dr. Toh. I learned so many things that I never knew even though I was in UBF many years. Now I really regret that I supported UBF blindly. I thought I was serving God absolutely with no compromise and with no human thinking.

Dr. Ben Toh’s response clearly reveals the dangerous mindset that can really hurt innocent campus students using spiritual authority in the name of serving God. I would like to highlight a few points about the UBF mindset revealed in Dr. Ben Toh’ email.
21st-Jun-2007 03:22 pm (UTC) - Toh as a patholigical liar
I think these emails reveal who Toh really is, but Toh has to be benchmarked against something. I would not benchmark him against a spiritual giant, which he is definitely not. I benchmark him against the profile of a pathological liar, which is much worse than a habitual liar. (I don't believe Toh and ubf leaders operate on a Bible basis, but only on negative psychology while waving a Bible.)

Do some reading on the web about pathological liar, there are many charactersitics:

a pathological liar shows no concern for the people he is harming. Toh showed no concern at the time or today.

a patholigcal liar is highly refined in manipulation, deceit, and cunning. Toh even admitted he was manipulative, no argument!

a pathological liar uses strong emotions and dramatics when describing himself and his actions. when describing others, he shows negative or no emotions.

a patholigcal liar will lie to get sympathy from others. Toh's letters beg for sympathy for himself, while showing no sympathy for anyone else.

a pathological liar never gets around to the bottom line truth, that he did very wrong and harmed others.

a pathological liar lies to those in close relationships with him, as intimacy with the victims allows him to get closer and make use of their trust and friendship. toh did this same harm and slander to many other sheeps in his fellowship.

pathological liars repeat their behavior over very long periods of time. Toh lied greatly back then, is still lying greatly today.

There is much more. I would like to suggest the following as the epitaph on Ban Toh's gravestone:

From Raymond Lloyd Richmond, Ph.D.

"Psychological Honesty": Even a pathological liar carries deep in his heart a desire for goodness and honesty and yet, because of painful emotional wounds, believes that the world never has, and never will, recognize his pain. And so, to hide that pain from himself, he uses all the lies he can concoct to hurl at the world as he runs in fear from his own goodness.

Oh Ban, Oh Ban, we hardly knew you back then, but now we all know you.

22nd-Jun-2007 02:42 am (UTC) - Re: Toh as a patholigical liar
Dr. Ben Toh says:

"My account to you is the exact expression of my intent when I spoke to Jamie. Was it manipulative? Yes. Would I do it again? Very likely No. But I would say that I did so independently and I was not thinking of all the other events that you brought up, such as Yvette Shin, which I knew about, and definitely not the event in Korea in 1976, which I did not know about. I did so independently and on my own accord. Was I trying to keep you in UBF? Yes. Should I have done so? No. Would I try something like this again? Very likely not."

Dr. Ben Toh asks himself "Would I do it again?" Then answers "Very likely not". He asks himself again "Would I try something like this agains?" His answer is "Very likely not." Here I see a bad influence of Bill Clinton on him. Maybe Dr. Ben Toh is using the English phrase "Very likely not" without understanding its meaning.

Dr. Ben Toh uses the phrase "defintely not" regarding his knowing of the events happened in UBF in 1976. It is very interesting to see how Dr. Ben Toh uses two completely different phrses to talk about two different situations.

In regard to anything bad about UBF, Dr. Ben Toh uses the phrase "defintely not" saying that he "defintely" does not know about it. But when he comes to something like telling his sheep to divorce his wife to keep him in UBF, he uses the phrase "very likely not" saying that it is not very likely that he would do it again.

I want to say that Dr. Ben Toh has "Definitely not" attitude toward UBF organization but he has "Very likely not" attitude toward the truth of God. From such a spiritual giant as Dr. Ben Toh, I would expect that he would say that he would "defintely" not do again such a thing as he did to Jamie and Amy and say that it is "very likely not" that he would have known the events in UBF in 1976.

"Definitely not" attitude has to do with absolute attitude. But "Very likely not" attitude is nothing but a form of moral relativism. So in conclusion, Dr. Ben Toh like all UBF leaders has absolute attitude toward UBF organization but has very relativistic attitude toward absolute morality found in the Bible. Dr. Ben Toh is not far away from turning his back on Jesus on account of UBF or maybe he already has.
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