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Steered into a UBF marriage 
27th-Mar-2008 02:25 pm
Posted at http://ubfhistoryx.livejournal.com:

Some emails came across my inbox recently showing how a UBF recruit eventually comes to be steered into a UBF marriage "by faith". The steering being shown here is being done by Chicago UBF leader Joseph Ahn with approval from higher-ups in UBF. This is from late 2006, and the prospective couple are a Chicago UBF member and a Venezuelan UBF member. I've emphasized the things below that stood out for me.

> ---------- Forwarded message ----------
> From: Jose Ahn <@googlemail.com>
> Date: Aug 19, 2006 10:53 AM
> Subject: Re: praying for you
> To: Sarah Barry <@gmail.com>
> Dear Mother Barry,
> [trimmed]
> S. Darren and Helen did very good coworking to deliver opening
> message last night. By the help of the holy spirit through prayer
> with M. Juan and Ana we arranged them to be in the same group
> Bible study. S. Darren may write his testimony in English. S.
> Helen who is a G study leader may help him to translate in
> Spanish. He may read his testimony this afternoon. Tomorrow they
> may to the same way. I talked to Darren very clearly why we
> came. [One wonders when Darren found out the true purpose of
> being asked to go to this foreign conference.]
What we should
> observe, the God's guiding hands. And decide by Sunday night
> with facts, yes or no. [Pushing a quick decision to get married
> to someone who is essentially a stranger.]
I talked with
> Helen as M. Juan also wanted to do so. I explained how this
> happened that we could come to this much. I felt as if I
> became Ab' servant of 4000 years ago. [The familiar UBF twist of
> the Isaac & Rebekah story.]
I feel the same God is living and guiding
> us step by step. I continue pray that everything may be guided by
> God in his good will. I talked s. Helen all the back ground story
> and our prayer. And I told her that she may make her own decision
> by Sunday night. [One wonders what "decision" will be seen as
> acceptable after all this "prayer and preparation" and expensive
> airfare and elevation of the decision to a "decision of
> faith".]
After hearing from each separtely, we will check
> God's will with prayer and we will follow the next step. Please
> pray for this.
> [trimmed]
28th-Mar-2008 08:09 pm (UTC) - "I was a most sinful and lazy person, but now I am the most eligible UBF marriage candidate..."
Here's another email. Again, I've emphasized the things below that stood out to me.

> From: José Ahn <@googlemail.com>
> To: Sarah Barry <@gmail.com>,
> Kim little sarah <@yahoo.com>,
> "Grace A. Lee" <@hotmail.com>,
> Ron Ward <@msn.com>, @gmail.com,
> vucecovich Mark A <@rcn.com>,
> Mark Yoon <@gmail.com>,
> Ahn Sr Maria <@hotmail.com>,
> Kim James H <@yahoo.com>,
> "Chung Dr. Joseph" <@yahoo.com>,
> Hwang Abraham <@hotmail.com>
> Subject: Venezuela conference and house church
> Date: Aug 20, 2006 14:02:40 -0700
> Dear Dr, John Jun,
> [trimmed]
> I thank God for guiding S. Darren's house church establishment
> step by step. Now they will have time to confess all their past
> sins before they make a decision before God. We pray that they
> could share all their shameful and horrible past sins committed
> by today. [See Lifton's "Cult of Confession"] Yet they may be able
> to forgive all the past sins and accept each other. We pray that still
> they can decide to live together starting a new life for the glory of
> God. [Honesty about one's past is admirable, but keep in mind,
> this is a forced confession session as part of an arranged
> marriage process. And after all that, it's still no basis for a
> marriage.]
Please pray for this difficult step. We will
> listen to them what happened to them tonight as one of other sign
> that God wants them to get together. [The UBF magical thinking
> and "sign seeking" in action. He's still fantasy role-playing as
> Abraham's servant of "4000 years ago".]
After that we will see
> what we should do. Please pray for this.
> [trimmed]
3rd-Apr-2008 07:02 pm (UTC) - "Um, Mom and Dad? Guess what?"
Here's the last email.

> From: José Ahn <@googlemail.com>
> To: @gmail.com, Sarah Barry <@gmail.com>,
> Mark Yoon <@gmail.com>,
> Ahn Sr Maria <@hotmail.com>,
> Ron Ward <@msn.com>,
> vucecovich Mark A <@rcn.com>,
> Kim James H <@yahoo.com>,
> "Grace A. Lee" <@hotmail.com>,
> "Chung Dr. Joseph" <@yahoo.com>,
> Isla Gustavo <@yahoo.com.mx>,
> Kim little sarah <@yahoo.com>
> Subject: Re: house church
> Date:Mon, 21 Aug 2006 11:09:46 -0700
> [trimmed]
> last night after finishing all program we asked each
> separately how they think about God's will for them. S.
> Darren said he believes that he could accept this as God's
> blessing for him. S. Helen told s. Ana and Juan also that if
> S. Darren says "yes," She has no problem to accept it as
> God's will for her house church. After confirming this, we
> asked them to meet this morning at 7 a.m. to go to the next
> step. This morning s. Darren met her and shared each other
> that it is God's will for them to establish a house church.
> Then he said that he knelt down and proposed her saying '
> Will you walk with me all your life time? Will you marry
> me?"... something similar in Spanish as he might have
> practiced alll night long. She said, " Si!" So they decided
> their future before God! [A few days at a conference and a
> few hours of "confession" later, he's proposing to a person
> he met a few days ago, and she's saying "Si!" It's actually
> not an uncommon occurrence in UBF.]
After we hear this we
> also knelt down before God and thanked for guiding them thus
> far. [WHO guided them?]
> After this we heard that S. Helen's old brother who attended the
> conference called his parents. S. Darren told them in Spanish. It
> is amazing to see that S. Darren could speak with them! S.
> Darren made a good friend with Helen's brother spending some time
> talking and praying. Her brother Alexander thought Darren very
> favorably for his opening message and drama and making friends
> etc. [A little extra encouragement (pressure) from a sibling
> in UBF goes a long way.]
So Helen had no problem to explain
> how in a few days suddenly her future was decided. [A frank
> admission of what the UBF "marriage by process" has been
> described as: An important life decision made in just a few days.
> And UBF leaders' pressuring had absolutely no part in that, they
> swear.]
Instead we heard that her parents were very joyful to
> hear that news. [If only her parents had the discernment of
> these parents not to be deceived. But then again, maybe her parents
> did raise concerns. It wouldn't be the first time that UBF
> leaders just glossed over parents' concern over their children's
> sudden decision to get married to someone they just met.]

> Remembering Abraham's servant who did not hesite but persisted to
> return immediately since God gave a smooth guidence, we prayed
> that they may make their decision of faith concrete tonight
> through a ceremony. [Still fantasy role-playing as Abraham's
> servant, he wants to rush them in case they have a change of
> heart.]
How about this?
> I remembered Dr. John Jun who said, one month ago, when I said, I
> am taking s. Darren to Helen. He simply said, they may have an
> engagement there. I was so surprised and answered, I am not sure
> whether we could go that much...... But now I thank God for Dr.
> John Jun's faith. So I had courage to go further. [Is there
> any doubt that the "marriage by faith" program is run from the
> very top of the UBF hierarchy?]

> On the way home around 4 p.m. we will let [Yes, you will
> let...]
S. Darren and Helen leave us to go by themselves and
> buy their rings to exchange tonight. [This must be their
> idea of a worthy activity on a "first date".]

> [trimmed]
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