With UBFs recent attempts to be accepted back into the NAE, there has been discussion of UBF needing to make a formal apology to those they have abused. At this point, I do not beleive that UBF is sincerely sorry for what they have done. Therefore, for any UBF leader or member reading this site, I would to write clearly that I do not want your phony apology. If you are not really sorry, than do not waste my time attempting to apologize.
In my last year in UBF, my director attempted to placate me by plying me with phony apologies regarding the human-centered humbleness training imposed upon me. He would say that he was sorry the training failed, but then he would add that the training failed because I was "not ready" to be trained. In other words, I was too immature to receive the training and thus it was my fault that the training failed. Further, he implied that I would need to accept the humbleness training in the future. Another time, he said that he was sorry about trying to train me, but that if I had accepted the training, there would not have been a problem. Again, he puts the blame on me. The training did not work, because I would not accept it. These phony attempts at apologizing were a waste of time.
Ultimately, my director and his wife showed their true viewpoint. My director said that I was "worshipping my own Christ" because I would not obey him. This horrible lie was what God used to open my eyes that I must leave UBF.
About one week after I left UBF, my former director and his wife came to visit me. During this visit, I mentioned that one problem I had was that they never apologized for the training they imposed on me and the numerous times they mistreated me. They responded that they had nothing for which to apologize. They said they had "no regrets" about the way they treated me.
In conclusion, UBF leaders who give lipservice to reconciling or coming together or wanting to be forgiven, can save their phony apologies. I have heard them before and do not need or want to hear them again.