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Silent Sufferers 
11th-Jan-2006 03:00 pm
Hi everyone, I have not ever posted on one of these sites before, but I have read everything I could find about UBF on the internet. I've read postings from several current UBF supporters say that there is only a very small group of people who oppose UBF, and they are just very vocal. This is not true. Viewers, please understand that there are MANY people hurting, who oppose UBF, but who cannot make a big commotion for the sake of our loved ones who are still trapped in the system. That doesn't mean that we don't keep up on the organization or want its ministry stopped. One of the saddest things about UBF is, if someone is in the church and their family objects, they are encouraged to reject their family and remain loyal to UBF. So many people choose to suffer alone in UBF itself or to hold out for loved ones still in the church. Maybe someday I will have the freedom to post my own testimony on these websites.
16th-Jan-2006 05:33 pm (UTC) - You are not alone.
I'm happy to see that you are considering leaving UBF. I was in the Columbus Ohio chapter for ten years - from June 1982 to May 1992. During the last three years I was there I wanted to leave but couldn't find the courage, even after watching a couple of people leave successfully.

When I finally left, I had no one - except my sister - who could understand what I had gone through. (I recruited her into the group in 1983 and she left a couple of years after I did.) People would ask questions like "If they were so bad, why did you stay so long?" and "How could you let yourself be manipulated so easily?" They couldn't fathom that UBF's problems didn't manifest themselves all at once or that for a while, it's possible to ignore the negative aspects because any benefits received from belonging to such a group can outweigh them.

My sister told me about the anti-UBF websites last summer and I've been reading and contributing to them ever since. I have also started writing my own testimony and hope to have it ready to post within a month or so. I hope you have the opportunity to write your own testimony. I look forward to reading it.

I love your screen name.
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