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The commitment trapdoor 
29th-May-2006 09:09 am
Recently we discussed about how UBF defines commitment as something only relating to UBF, and how they pressure people to become “committed” (to UBF, i.e.).

The treacherous thing about this commitment pressure is hat commitment in UBF has a “trapdoor” character, it is a one-way street. By this I mean that UBF makes it for you extremely easy to commit yourself to everything they want – weekly Bible study, attending conferences, attending sogam sharing sessions and prayer meetings, playing an instrument at the worship service or joining the choir, or take a duty like typing in or correcting the message for the leader every week, but they make it difficult and virtually impossible for you to ever give up that commitment in order to commit for something else (e.g. if you see you need to take more time for your study or your parents). If you want to leave a commitment, you suddenly need to reason why, you need a good excuse, and no excuse will be good enough in UBF. You will be called “unspiritual”, lazy, uncommitted, “pleasure-seeking”, following your desires of the flesh, and everything that was mentioned in the message quoted by human12. Once they got you committed to something in UBF, you cannot get out of it any more. Instead, they immediately start and try to get you committed to the next thing. And the more weekly commitments you already have, the easier it will be for them to cajole you into the next thing, because they meet you every week and can easily find a situation in which you wouldn’t say “no”. (Saying “no” to anything would be considered “unspiritual” anyway.) [more in comments]
29th-May-2006 07:27 am (UTC)
We recently discussed that mechanism in our church and found it is also at work in many agile Christian youth movements. The young people (often students) commit to always more activities, sometimes culminating in foreign mission even, because these groups make it very easy for you to get committed, and you will be honored and flattered if you commit, and may also have a lot of fun in these activities. But these groups never teach you to “count the costs” and to look whether there are other activities in your life that should have priority. Girls seem to be particularly susceptible for this. So often, you end up with 37 year old ladies who have no proper education, have no family, but served in many different church missions. However, they suddenly see they missed something and become bitter, accusing others of not being so spiritual as they were. (Maybe Sarah Barry was one of them.)
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