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Marriage, love and mission in UBF 
6th-Aug-2006 04:01 pm

There seems to be heated discussion on the Korean UBF open counseling website. The topic is about a person’s feeling toward an opposite sex that could eventually develop into “love”.
6th-Aug-2006 09:36 pm (UTC)
In post 1373, a student shepherd responds to the staff shepherd’s three arguments. The student says that man is not robot. God created man with feeling. So trying to control feeling of love that arises in man naturally for the sake of business is wrong. Then the student asks some specific questions regarding the three arguments by the UBF staff shepherd. I will just give an brief translation of the student’s arguments.

First, what do you mean by “obeying God’s sovereignty”? Marriage is basically decided by the two who are getting married. Does it make any sense that a third person, a shepherd, besides the two who are getting married should be involved in making this important decision? There could be some advice or counseling about making this important decision. But if a staff shepherd, a third party, is trying to decide who should marry who, then the shepherd has stepped over the boundary of his/her authority. There is no place in the Bible that says we should marry based on mission rather than on love.

Second, you said the “mission” is the most important in UBF. But who decides “mission” for my life? Does UBF decides what my life mission should be? You said that marriage should be based on mission. But how can you say that one’s life of mission and marriage life would work ok just because two persons have that same “mission”? Don’t you think that one’s life of mission and marriage life would work much better if the marriage is based on love?

Third, you said you would never allow any relationship based on personal feeling or love and a marriage based on love in your chapter. Is this your personal opinion or is this the decision of the whole UBF leadership? If this is the case, then you should make this UBF opinion about marriage very clear from the beginning of your recruitment and training. Why do you recruit students without any mention of these things and only let them know when they are deeply involved in UBF ministry? Don’t you think this is kinda cultic?

Fourth, you said UBF marriage by faith is not perfect but beautiful enough to be preserved. But please do not forget that there are many families in UBF who are going through so many unnecessary hardships because UBF practice of marriage by faith.

In conclusion, I feel so frustrated by your three arguments. I was expecting a more honest discussion regarding the matter of marriage, love and mission in UBF. Don’t think that we are corrupt because we place such a great importance on love in marriage. We love God’s mission as much as you value love in marriage.
7th-Aug-2006 12:17 am (UTC)
These were three very good questions by the student. It seems a new generation of Koreans is raising up that is able to ask the right questions. Good for them, bad for UBF ;-) Very good questions, indeed.
7th-Aug-2006 02:36 am (UTC)
It seems a new generation of Koreans is raising up that is able to ask the right questions.

Yes indeed! It seems that the 5000 years of Korean civilization wasn't just an empty talk! I am so glad that there is a Korean student who can ask the right questions. Compare this student to the English major student who asked a very dumb question to Pastor Kim Jin Hong about truth. I don't think that the current UBF leadership can serve the new generation of Korean students properly with the truth of God.
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